Have You Faced Death?Posted: October 12, 2012
I had a client come in the other day. I’ve known her for a long time, years. She is in her mid-thirties and has little kids at home. I hadn’t seen her in a while because she had been to the doctor quite often recently. I knew she had some serious health problems, but she always seemed to communicate that it was under control. She had been diagnosed with cancer a year ago, and I saw how she was affected by the drugs and the treatment. Her hair was different this time, she told us that it had grown back enough that she could take off the wig.
So I was surprised when she told me that she was only given a month to live. The doctors told her that things had worsened and they could not do anything else for her.
I sat there in shock. What do you say to that?
My heart aches for her kids losing their mother so soon. I thought of my kids and family and how crazy and sad and terrible that would be for anyone.
This visit made me think hard about how I would live my life if I had one month to live.
What would I do?
Who would I spend my time with?
Or more importantly, what would I NOT do?
What would I leave out of my life?
Now, I’m not saying we need to live every day frantically trying to accomplish everything on our “bucket list.” But ask yourself what, or more likely who, should get more of your precious time.
If it’s so important to spend time with that person if you were dying, then why wait?
I know for myself, I have two groups of people to include, remembering that I still have to provide for my family.
1) The people I would spend my time with if I have the choice are my family, my wife, kids, parents and siblings.
2) The people I spend my precious time with at work or elsewhere: These people I can be selective about, to a point. I hired the people I work with, so it’s up to me to choose them. Not everyone has that luxury.
But you do have a choice to stay in your job or change jobs if that is appropriate. Also, who do you spend your off-time with? They can build you up and help you grow, or they can drag you down.
If your friends or coworkers are a drag on your life, you may need to set them free.
I wish the best for my client and her family in the coming weeks. I pray for her, and I pray that I can do the best I can with the time I am given on this earth.
Have you ever faced death? Are you going to face it now? Are you going to look into the future and see your loved ones at your funeral? What are they saying?